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Welcome to the Avail resource library.
Free articles from our contributors, plus a members-only library across seven parts of the divorce — legal, financial, family, emotional, career, physical, and community.
Who gets custody of the vacuum cleaner?
Divorce can be chaotic. The small objects are where the big feelings hide — and where a little order helps.
Avail · 4 min
Tips for telling your children you’re getting a divorce
The conversation you never wanted to have. A calmer script, said together when you can.
Sanam · 6 min
4 things to say to a friend who tells you they’re getting divorced — and the 1 thing not to say
Your friend does not need a verdict on their marriage. They need a place to land.
Avail · 4 min
First step in setting boundaries
Boundaries show up, unavoidably, when a marriage is ending. Start with one sentence you can repeat.
Kylie · 5 min
What to do with wedding photos after divorce
An album is not a legal exhibit. You get to decide what the pictures are for now.
Dorena Kohrs · 4 min
Reasons you should do yoga during a divorce
Not as a personality. As a way to put your nervous system down for an hour.
Molly Blue Wilder · 4 min
Dating after divorce
The wonderful, slightly terrifying world of dating is up ahead. Tentative is a sane way to arrive.
Molly Blue Wilder · 5 min
3 alternatives to alcohol during a divorce
The night is long. A drink is an easy off-switch. Here are three that do not bill you later.
Avail · 4 min
10 legal questions everyone should ask at the start of their divorce
Not legal advice — a list so the first attorney meeting belongs to you.
Avail · 7 min
Discussing marital property, child support, and parental responsibilities with your attorney
There is no sugarcoating it. These are tough conversations. Arrive with paper, not just panic.
Avail · 6 min
Are you entitled to spousal support?
The honest answer is: it depends, and it is decided with facts — not with a feeling that you suffered more.
Avail · 5 min
Financial disclosures checklist
The unglamorous stack of paper that saves months. Gather it once.
Avail · 6 min
Devising a parenting plan
A plan is a kindness to your children and to your future self at 6 a.m. on a Monday.
Avail · 6 min
Divorce and dealing with anger
Anger is information and it is also a terrible project manager. Give it a job that is not your children.
Avail · 5 min
Divorce and dealing with fear
Fear likes the hour when the house is quiet. Shrink the question until it fits on a card.
Avail · 4 min
Dealing with loneliness
The house can be full of children and still be lonely. That is not ingratitude. It is a new shape.
Avail · 4 min
Dealing with the shame and stigma of divorce
About half of marriages change shape this way. Shame is common. It is not accurate.
Avail · 4 min
Divorce and work
You can be competent at your job and useless at email for a month. Plan for the month.
Avail · 5 min
Finding a job after a career hiatus
Years of unpaid labor are experience. Translate them without apologizing for them.
Avail · 5 min
Choosing the right legal team
Attorney, mediator, coach, planner. You probably do not need all of them at full volume.
Avail · 5 min
Avail resources for the over-55 crowd
A long marriage ending is not a smaller divorce. Retirement, Medicare, and the house change the math.
Avail · 5 min
Building healthy habits while everything else is moving
Tiny, repeatable, slightly boring. That is the whole method.
Avail · 4 min
Acknowledging shock and denial
If the news is still unreal, you are not behind. Shock is a pace, not a personality.
Avail · 4 min
Becoming the person you want to be
The other side of divorce is not a makeover. It is a series of ordinary choices that finally match you.
Avail · 4 min
Divorce and what to eat
When decision fatigue is total, the meal should not be another project.
Avail · 3 min